Anxiety & The Universe

Managing signs from the universe and our own personal anxiety/fears can be a bit of a balancing act.  On a personal level, not only have I had some incredible signs, messages and gut feelings from the Universe which have no doubt helped and shaped my life, I have also suffered from chronic anxiety since a small child.

This can make life very tricky.  Questions such as, “is this a sign from my higher self or am I catastrophizing here?” often come into my thought patterns.  

More rationally minded experts might say that I should ignore my gut and go with facts, figures, and statistics.  But it isn’t quite that easy shutting down the more intuitive side of you when not only do you have psychic and mediumistic ability, but you also work within it in a professional capacity.

It is my job to pick up on energy and then build a story around the information I receive, using my intuition.  This is the opposite of what an anxious person should probably do.  As building a story around unknown facts can be scary and harmful to their mental health.   

I have found when reading for other people, because it is a purely objective exercise and I have no knowledge or deep emotional attachment to their situation, I can read very well and purely from intuition. 

However, when I read for myself, it is almost always skewed with my own emotional bias and subjectivity.

It has taken me some years to arrive at the fact that if I trust in the universe unconditionally, then this is the very best way to help control my racing thoughts.

Sitting in the moment, accepting today for how it is, and saying a silent “thank you universe” is how I trust it.  

I look at myself as split into two halves.  The first half is the physical person that my family and friends know and love.  My second half is my higher self, the one that is connected within the universe (and beyond!).  This is the half that will always have my best interests at heart and will help guide me along my life path.  When I am addressing the universe, I am addressing my second half.

So, I trust that my second, higher self has it all worked out for me.  I trust that if, say, something is not working in my life (whether that be a person or situation or state of mind) then I ask my higher self to remove it from my vibration.

My human, anxious mind may tell me that something might not work out in the future and begin to try making me anxious about that eventuality happening today.  However, when I feel these scary feelings coming in, I have now learnt to check in with my higher self.

I remember that I trust the universe so much that if something wasn’t working in line with my highest good, then I would have got the nudge by now.  Worrying about it doesn’t mean it is happening NOW.

What are the nudges that you might get from the universe/your higher self that you should potentially be listening too?  Here are a few I can think of;

  • You feel unhappy and don’t know why, there is no one reason (something is out of balance in one of your four pillars: emotional health / spiritual health / mental health / physical health)
  • A relationship ends beyond your control 
  • You feel like you want to end a relationship
  • You want a new job / you get made redundant / you don’t get the job/promotion you went for 
  • You keep having accidents or chronic bad health 
  • You keep losing money 
  • You do not feel motivated 
  • You self-neglect with bad, unhealthy practices 
  • Someone comes into your life again 
  • Someone new comes into your life and shakes it 
  • You decide to put in new boundaries 
  • You decide to cut those off that are causing you harm

The list really is endless in terms of picking up on these subtle “signs” from your higher self.  Repetition is also important to look out for, if the same message keeps coming in front of you, then your higher self is really trying to get it into you that something must change.

If your mind is on repeat telling you that something will go wrong, yet it is ok in the moment, then that is anxiety, not our higher self.

If on the other hand you have a deep, gut feeling that something is out of balance, live in the moment, take each day as it comes and if you then begin to see changes that happen around you, then you know you are trusting the universe and you are accepting you are just in the right place, just at the right time.

Until next time


The Power Of The Hex…Part 2

The Power Of The Hex….Part 2

Last week I blogged about a small (unintentional) hex that I put on an unsuspecting useless man.  Read here if you need a recap.

I promised I would tell you about what happened when I really did put a hex on someone, with full intention behind it.  So here it is.

Just over a year ago I was in a minor car crash.  It was absolutely thumping down with rain on a cold Tuesday morning, I was pulling out of a parking space with limited viewing capacity, and I hit an oncoming car.  This accident was totally my fault.  The speed the other car driver was going, in the rain, on a residential street with school kids everywhere, was not.

I got out of my vehicle to speak to the driver whose car had just smashed into mine (the sound was revolting!) and, as I tried to peer through my hoody under the torrential downpour that was in motion, apologised and yet at the same time questioned why they were driving that fast in these adverse weather conditions? 

Sadly, the rest of the “conversation” is a blur, as all I heard from the tall blond female was a barrage of insults.  She was practically screaming at me, jumping around from foot to foot like a boxer about to punch her opponent.  The intuitive part of me felt like she enjoyed it a little bit too much…….luckily the heavy rain on my face hid my tears (although it was probably obvious, I couldn’t speak because she was cutting me down and wouldn’t let me).  So much for female solidarity.  

So, there I was being verbally attacked by the driver and it was awful.  She was swearing, shouting, being a vile excuse of a human being and was one hundred percent on the defence.  If anything spells guilty it is when someone tries to detract from the error of their ways.

Luckily the woman’s adult son was present and as he apologised to me with his eyes and gave me a thought of “I’m sorry she is always like this” (the power of being a mind reader, I could literally hear his thoughts), he put an arm around my shoulder, and human shielded me from her to proceed with taking care of the car insurance details (had he done this before?).

Once she had finally got in her car and driven off (lucky her, my car LIMPED the two-minute drive back home), a passer-by stopped me and said that my verbal abuser was known in the community for speeding.  That one day she could really hurt even herself or someone else….

I was furious.  I took full responsibility that I pulled out on her, but her speeding in the rain (that can never be proven) and the absolute nastiness that she threw at me, well it was uncalled for.

After I had got home, had a cup of tea, called my husband (crying), called the nicest insurance man I had ever spoken too (cried some more), I sat and thought about the woman.

Woe betide the one who crosses the witch…………….I was so angry.

Before I knew what I was doing, I was grabbling paraphernalia from the alter.  Candles (of every colour), a burning bowl, a mirror, a pen and paper, a lighter, maybe some incense.  I can’t remember, all I know is that there was a lot of stuff and before I knew it I had cast a circle and had written out my full intention on the paper.

Now, I must add at this point, I have never done anything like this before.  I would also like to add that no female in my life had ever gotten in my face with such vulgarity that literally rendered me speechless.  I wanted this woman to see the error of her ways.

I did not want to hurt her though.  But I did want her to understand that if she carried on behaving that way, she is going to hurt herself or others.

So that was what I cast.  My intention was that in every way that she belittled me that day, the fact she was speeding, her lack of regard for other parents and children (it was on the school run!) – all that bad, negative energy would turn back on her three-fold.  I cast the spell, I burnt it, I blew the candles out and then….I forgot about it.

Until three months later.  I received a message from a friend and there in black and white was a social media post from the speeding maniac, thanking the man that had helped her after her car crash that morning.

Sitting open mouthed I remembered my hex (and side noted that her insurance premiums must be HUGE from this point forward).  This crash was a bad one.  It sounded like a head on from both directions at speed.  She was in the car, as was her son (again, poor chap).  This time her car was smashed in and she required a 12 hour hospital stay.  She / they were lucky to walk away.  

Now here is the billion-dollar question.  Did my hex cause the crash or did she?  My answer to that is that she did.  BUT I put A LOT of intention behind her finding out the hard way.  I willed her to understand that she couldn’t carry on driving like an idiot.  I truly believe that this final crash showed her that she was on thin ice.

So, I feel no guilt about this hex, yet, I would never do it again.  Every intention is so much better charged with love, not hate.

So, before you cast the words, or throw the bad vibes someone’s way, maybe think about how powerful your energy is and it can shape things.

Until next time,


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The Power Of The Hex

There is a belief in the witchy world that a hex is put on a person who has wronged them.  It is the “may the energy that one gives off come back to them three times” type of vibe. 

For a hex, you see, is nothing more than pure intention that has A LOT of negative energy behind it, in the form of anger, frustration and at times, rage.

As someone who doesn’t throw hexes around very often (only if I see a speeding car outside the school crossing, I promise!), I must admit to two occasions where I have used a hex.  One without realising it, and the other with full intention behind it, because I was more than a little peeved.

Let me tell you about the first one, the one that I didn’t realise I did until last month.

The annoyance came one December about six years ago when we had some winter snow.

I was driving back to my house after staying at my parents’ home for the night.  On my journey, the snow dropped rapidly and as I approached a particularly tricky corner a few streets down the hill from where I live, my car decided to get itself stuck.

Try as I might, I could not move my big old car up the snowy, icy hill, it just kept skidding round from the back and making enough noise to get some of the neighbours to come out and look.

One of those neighbours was a sweet old lady who tried to help me but was as useful as I was, not great to be honest.  I needed someone strong to push the back whilst I put my foot on the gas.

Getting myself a little stressed as I knew that soon there would be more cars on this road, I felt flustered and even more angered because a man had come out to watch me on his doorstep.

As he slowly lit his cigarette, he inhaled deeply drawing on the fag and watching in what I only felt was smug amusement at an elderly woman and a younger one trying in vain to move a vehicle in the middle of a snowstorm.

I rather loudly yet passively aggressively made a comment about “if this was my husband on the doorstep he certainly would be offering to help right now!” as I speed dialled said husband to please come and rescue me with some tyre snow socks and a shovel.

Ten minutes later, there was husband, helping me like the gent he is, and lazy man still enjoying the show from the comfort of his threshold.

As I slowly ascended the hill, now with some traction from the snow socks, I muttered under my breath “I hope you get the same treatment one day, Mr “I’m going to stand and smirk and not help” horrible little man!!”.  

That was it, that’s all I said,  and left it at that.

This December just gone, we had epic snow in the UK, it was Canada level fantastic, dry and snowman buildable and it lasted a whole entire WEEK.  Thus, causing chaos to pretty much everyone, except for me, as I didn’t have to drive anywhere this time.

On our walk home from school during snow week, my daughter and I went past the house that belonged to Mr “I like to stare at others whilst in their hour of need” man.

And, like some weird yet beautiful coincidence, there he was, in his car, approaching his house, tentatively on the same bit of road I was on a few years back.  He was attempting to park.  He was failing.  

As it dawned on me that we were having a complete role reversal, me outside looking at him trying to navigate his car, my little girl let out a “oh” as his car started back spinning all over the place.

Try as he might, his car was a like a turned over tortoise trying to get up the slanted road and failing miserably.  He was losing control and the skids were getting worse, he was making a real pig’s ear of it.

As our eyes met, I did a chuckle (he saw me) and I sang “I see you rolling….” As we joyfully walked on by, listening to his car skids and strained exhaust sounds getting quieter in the distance.

It was only then that I realised my unintentional hex may have worked.  If this was an isolated incident, I would have said it was just a synchronicity.

But it wasn’t.  As mentioned at the start of this blog, I had an even bigger and quite frankly, more serious experience with a hex.

I will save that one for next week…….!

Until next time,


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The Energy Web

I recently read a fantastic analogy of how we are all linked together energetically. 

Imagine a spider’s web.  You are at the centre; you are the spider.  The web you bounce on is the energy web.  Every strand is linked to another strand, in turn linking to smaller or larger strands that reach out as far as the eye can see.  Some might say these strands are never ending.

Every time you create a spark of energy (be it a thought, decision, movement, word, or something else) the spiders web vibrates just a little bit, sending a tremor along and pulsating to the nearest strands, getting stronger or weaker depending on the direction that it flows.

If you do something big, the ripples are wide and far reaching.  If you do something small, they are not quite as visible, yet they are there, nonetheless.  

And like a web, whatever you “send out” when you vibrate on the web, comes right back to you in the centre.  Every single tremor is felt and accounted for.  

If there is someone that you have connected with, any type of relationship in your life, that person sits on your web somewhere.  Your friends and family members are closest to you and the acquaintances and distant friends, or family are further along the web.  But still joined to you, as they once touched your energy.

Every time you think about someone, you create a charge in your own personal energy system that begins to vibrate your web.  If you love or like that person, the web vibrates at a higher rate and quickly shoots a signal along the web thread to the person you are thinking about.  In some context, they will pick up on this signal from you.  The likely hood is they will think of you too (if you are very close).

If you are not too close, a signal will still vibrate out to the person in question.  They may notice their web tingling, but will not know why, or who, it is from.  The more you think about this person, the more your web vibrates to them.  They will then vibrate along with it and at some point in time you will bump into this person, believe me and trust that this is the case.

Obviously if you have never met the person (like a famous film star) the chances of your web reaching their web is very slim indeed however, anything on your web that connects that person to you, such as fan clubs, or merchandise opportunities, will be vibrating along with you.  So, you will inevitable drawer in “things” connected to the person along your web.

This is exactly how law of attraction works.  Imagine all the things you want to manifest sit somewhere on your web. Once you start to vibrate on their strand, at some point, you are going to drawer them to you.

This also counts for the things, or people, that you do not want in your life anymore.  If you keep on pinging the web strand, you are just going to be knocking on their energy door again and again.

How do you disconnect from them?  You must try to reduce the vibrational tremors along your web to theirs (you can even severe the tie if you desperately have too by performing an intention ritual to cut your connection).

Here is how you reduce your vibrational connection to someone on your web;

  • Try not to think of the person (this is difficult I know), but even a thought sends out an energy single to someone on your web.  
  • Do not talk about them, this is even more powerful than thinking.  Talking gives a sound wave which in turn makes the vibration even stronger, which will vibrate rapidly on their strand.
  • Unfollow, disconnect and block all social connections.
  • Place your energy intention along other lines on your web, making your connection to the person weaker and weaker until eventually the web line is so frail, it eventually breaks and forms another web link with someone else.

If we use the energy web analogy in every aspect of our lives, we can see how we can use the law of attraction to not only bring in the things we want, but to also reduce the amount of things we do not want to manifest, on a more negative vibrational level.

Until next time,


Misery Loves Company

Being a Professional Tarot reader allows me into the world of the anthropologist, observing others in their customs, beliefs values and relationships.  Even in this short time of reading at a professional level (just six years) I have noticed patterns of behaviours based on similar experiences from my clients.

One of those is that misery loves company.  Over time, if someone co-exists along with another individual who is extremely negative in nature, even with the most positive mindset, it can be hard to not feel drawn into that lower vibrational energy. 

I have noticed that on our physical earth level, it is easier for low vibrations to exist and subsequently pull others along with it, a bit like a huge magnetic black hole.

Let’s face it, if you are a naturally optimist and higher vibing person, you may find that negative people drain you and it may be a huge challenge to bring those negative people up to your level, feeling impossible at times.

It can take real work to remain positive, an inner strength that does not come easy for some. 

Some people are addicted to negativity.  They become so used to thinking a certain way that they look for their next fix, by;

  • Constantly reading and watching the news, feeding off the misery, sadness, and destruction in the world.  There is a reason why no news is good news.
  • Talking about other people.  Gossip in particular is where the negative person likes to reside.  Judgements, comparisons and making assumptions. 
  • Complaining, about everything and anything.  Life isn’t fair, this happened, that happened, they did not get what they were entitled too.
  • Wallowing in self-pity.  Making the noises of misery but making absolutely no effort to remove oneself from the very place that causes them so much internal grief.
  • Choosing to live in the negative energy as a personality type.  In life, hard things happen.  Some allow the hard things to define them, others use it as a steppingstone to help them to grow.
  • Staying in one place, as change represents growth, and a negative person will be terrified of change.  The root of their problems is anxiety driven fear, with low self-esteem and almost no motivation to have the self-awareness to change their perspective.   

Just to make it clear, my above description is not talking about someone who has depression or a mental health issue.  It is about someone who chooses to live negatively because of ignorance and closed mindedness. 

If you live with a person who demonstrates the above behaviours, you may eventually begin to join them in the party, it can even be a subconscious thing that you are not aware of. 

This is what I have noticed with some clients, that they have allowed their partners misery to all consume them and have given up on themselves.

It’s a “well if you can’t beat them, join them” type of situation.

After years of being dragged down, it is easier to sit with them and much harder to climb up away from them.

So how do you safeguard yourself from another person’s daily woes, especially if you are married to one or live with one?

You need to do the opposite of each emotion and behaviour to cancel the other one out. 

You must take your power back by;

  • Reducing the amount of news you watch, not enough to be ignorant of public affairs but enough so that you are not feeding into it daily.
  • Don’t join in the conversation about others.  This can be hard, as some family cultures and generations do this without giving it a second thought.  Put your energy into experiences instead of judging other people’s lives.  Be inspired by others, do not fester in jealousy. 
  • Stop complaining. Find the positive in every downturn (in the majority of instances, there is a hidden positive.  If there is not, use the bad experience as a growth lesson)
  • Have faith, don’t wallow.  Wallowing attaches you to the idea that nothing will ever work out.  If you feel this way, seek help for your mental health.  The first steps can be a challenge but once you have made the first one, the sense of empowerment alone can lift your spirits.
  • Seek positive change and allow growth to happen for you.  Do it alone if the negative person does not want to join in. 
  • Don’t wait for someone to change.  The likelihood is that they will not.  But you can, you have the power of self-awareness. 

The most effective thing to do is remove yourself from the persons negative energy.  If that is not an option for you, you must do all you can to lift your own vibration.  I cannot stress enough that part comes from you.  It is your responsibility to shine your own light brightly, don’t let others blow out your flame. 

Until next time,


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What If It All Ends When We Do?

I believe strongly in the theory that our lives are mapped out for us (to a degree) with regards to coming here in this physical reality to “experience” life as a human being.  I do feel that the big stuff that happens, the extreme highs and lows of life are what we already planned for ourselves.  The stuff in between those extremes is based on our free will and ability to choose the next step forward.

But like a play that we are the lead character in, what happens if when our eyes close for the final time and our last breath is taken, the theatre we are in suddenly folds in on itself and ceases to be?

Think on this for just a moment, what if this whole Earth existed just for you?  That’s right, every relationship, every person, every event, the whole thing, what if it is your script and yours alone…..that it ends completely as soon as your physical body does?

Let’s face it, you can be in the same room as a person, watching the same things going on, yet both be having an entirely different experience.  What’s not to say that our experience ends with us and everything else was just here as a prop in the stage show of our lives.

That is not to take any value away from it, like it’s not important.  In fact, it’s all crucial to have as part of our learning journey.

What I am trying to say is that maybe, just maybe, this is your script and yours alone.  And if that is the case, it means you have a hand in writing the next chapters.

Law of attraction is so very real.  When we fully trust and believe that we can manipulate the energy around us (and I don’t mean that in a negative way), we can start to direct the movie of our life.

What most people do not realise is that they are performing intentional rituals daily by their thoughts and actions, yet they laugh at all that law of attraction ‘nonsense”.  If only they knew the half of it!

We can manifest anything we like, and when we hit something that our soul already planned for us, that is when the magic really does happen.

So maybe this is the stage show of your life, and it is up to you to direct it just the way you want it (but don’t be surprised if your higher self has thrown in a few goodies along the way!).

Until next time,


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Split Souls

The tarot teaches us that life is made up from just a few personality archetypes.  These are the fire types, filled with adventure, ambition and an unyielding urge to travel forward with spirit and courage.

Then there are the water ones, those that seek comfort and life’s luxuries, that indulge themselves in deeper feelings, staying close to those they feel need them or in fact, those that they need.

There are the earthly soldiers who toe the line, always showing up to fall into duty, serving others and themselves without question. 

There are the airy deep thinkers, the truth tellers, the debate starters, and the rational logical analysts of the world.

In between the main four, there are the healers, the magicians, the hermits, the mothers, fathers, spiritual leaders and narcissists. 

The tarot covers just about any human personality type you can think of.

Recently, this got me thinking.

The tarot is right, as people we generally fall into a type based on our core beliefs, opinions, experiences and values.

The reason why tarot is so easy to use (in my opinion) is because most humans fall within the four main tarot court suits, and once you describe the personality traits of the suit, the sitter will know intrinsically who you are talking about in their life, even though you have never even met the person you are describing.

Have you ever met someone that not only looks like someone you know but also has an uncanny resemblance with mannerisms and personality quirks with that person?  It is like they have been split at birth, a sister from another mister, a brother from another mother….a doppelganger.

How can there only be a certain amount of personality types, I ask myself?  And if we resemble others so much, does this mean that we are in fact, somehow connected on a deeper level?

What if, when we die, and we go back “home” it turns out that our soul is split into many spirit lines, attached to many human beings, living on the Earth concurrently, living different lives yet joined by the same soul……..?

What if it turns out, there are not billions of beings, but in fact, a mere few?  Just a room full of souls, and that is it.

When you meet someone who is on your “vibration” – the instant chemistry you get, the deep connection that you cannot explain…..are you simply just reaching out to someone who shares the same soul as you?

I read a lot about “twin flames”, the same soul that has been split in two and when you meet this person in life, it is like looking at a reflection of yourself.  Why does this have to be limited to just two splits in a soul?  What if there are many?

What if you have the same soul as your mother and daughter and understand that from an inner level because you know you are basically the same people but living separate lives?

I have always thought this about my own mother, that when she dies, she cannot go anywhere because she is so much a part of “me”.  And I am sure my daughter feels the same about our relationship.

Then there are the people we do not like, those that rub against our energy like sandpaper on skin.  They are certainly not part of our soul.  But….are they there to help us grow, to allow us to experience different vibrations and how to react to situations in order to experience life in a physical Universe?

So perhaps when you next bump into a person that reminds you so much of another friend, or find yourself gravitating in conversation with a stranger like you are old friends, just perhaps, you are actually conversing with yourself, a split in your soul, waiting to eventually join back together again.

Until next time,


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Spiritual Therapy

Therapy can come in many shapes and sizes, but the beauty of spiritual therapy is that it often shifts a lot of unwanted energy so subtly, we hardly even notice it happening.

As I practice both Reiki and Tarot Readings, I get the privilege to use two different modalities to help my clients.

Reiki has a powerful yet gentle way of moving blocks of energy that are stuck in our aura.  It wasn’t until I really began to connect with the different energetic chakra systems that I could visualise what some clients are holding on to from an auric perspective.

For example, I would often see giant scissors cutting a relationship in half when I stood above my clients heart chakra, telling me in an instant that there was a painful breakup in the past and my client is still holding on to that sad energy.

Energy does leave an imprint within our existence (otherwise how else can we read psychic energy?). 

If we suffer trauma, or hold on to stress without releasing it in a constructive way, it begins to build within our auric layers and not only gets caught within the emotional, mental and spiritual layers of ourselves, it will eventually begin to manifest as a physical ailment.

I find it incredible that most people (including myself) can trace an illness or condition back to a cause that happened within each of the chakra points (for example, the stress of a job move could coincide with bad knee pain from the base chakra or prolonged asthma or sore throats from not expressing how we are feeling from the throat chakra).

Reiki will help these blocks to lift and will provide temporary yet eventual continuous relief (if practiced for long enough) from a host of emotional and physical conditions (as the two are almost always interlinked).

A Tarot Reading is another powerful spiritual therapy because it gives me, the reader, the chance to unpick the blocked layers with more detail.

Like traditional talking therapy but with its own unique spiritual twist, a good reader will talk about your life like it is an open chapter in a very interesting book.  The reader is the guide in the sitting, ensuring the reading connects with the clients own intuition.

The reader will look back at a summary of what lead you to where you are on your current path and will delve into that current chapter to see where the story is going to take you.

The next chapters are again a summary of energy (as the reality hasn’t happened yet!) and will offer up the potential of where the story could go.

Last week I had a client that had some incredible business potential in her energy.  It was far removed from her current life position, and she asked me if she could really achieve it?  I told her, of course she could, because if it wasn’t in her potential, it would never have been shown to me.  On a deeper level, my client knew she had this potential also.

I believe that spiritual therapy should be used alongside traditional methods as well as complementary treatments, as it provides the client with a mixed bag of fantastic tools to help navigate their life with.

Until next time,


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Your Four Queens

Your Four Queens

When you become an advanced tarot reader, you understand that sometimes the strongest message is from the cards that have not been placed down within your spread. 

The cards that are missing are what I like to call “a message in the message”.

I notice this a lot with Queens, especially if I am reading for someone who has yet to step into their own power. 

The Queens in our tarot court deck are there to not only nurture different aspects of ourselves, but for us to embody those very qualities.  The tarot suits are made up from the four pillars of our physical world, mental, physical, emotional and spiritual.  Each Queen therefore gives us an insight into what we could strive for and what we need to do to balance those four life areas.

I’m trying to embody each Queen into my own personal life.  It is not always easy.  If we spend too long in one suit aspect, we find that others may come out of equilibrium.  So, the key I believe is to get familiar with each and heal each of those four Queens when she needs it, to strike that balance that is so crucially needed for us to feel at peace in our lives.

To help you step into your Queen energy, I have explained below the best ways that I feel you can do this.  You will be surprised at how by embracing these qualities yourself will change your energetic blueprint, in turn raising your vibration and opening up a whole other realm of possibilities for you.

Air; The Queen Of Swords; Nurturing our Mental Health

This is the Queen of logic, reasoning, and brutal honesty.  To nurture this aspect of ourselves, we must be honest with how we feel and recognise when our mental health may need some care and attention.  How are our personal boundaries?  Are things, people or situations dragging us down and into a negative pattern of thinking?

By embracing our Queen of swords, we are stepping into a logical way of thinking, removing any emotional pulls that may jade our decision making.  We need to recognise when we should switch into this mode and use our analytical skills wisely. 

Here are some affirmations that may help you step into your Queen of Swords energy;

  • I can make calm, sound and reasonable decisions for my life
  • I have clarity of mind in any given situation
  • I will say no without feeling any guilt
  • I will respect my personal boundaries  
  • If I need time to think before I answer, I shall give myself that grace
  • Honesty does not have to be costly
  • I have integrity, always

Earth; The Queen Of Pentacles; Nurturing our Physical Wellbeing

This is the Queen of self-care, resourcefulness, and healing.  To nurture this aspect of ourselves, we must ensure our cup is filled before we can help anyone else.  This is true with every physical aspect of our being, from our own bodily health to the money we can earn to live a life of choice and freedom.  Self-care falls under this Queen to ensure she is strong enough to have her own independence, as well as being humble enough to be able to receive help if offered.

Here are some affirmations that may help you step into your Queen of Pentacles energy;

  • I will honour my body with good food, water and plenty of rest
  • I will work hard to build a strong, healthy, and fit physical body
  • I will embrace the natural world around me to help with my mental health
  • I will work hard to bring in an income (if I am physically and mentally able) to support myself and others
  • I will honour the healer that I am and understand that even if I do not bring in an income, that my home-work is recognised as important with the contribution that I bring to myself and those around me
  • I am nurturing, kind and know that I have everything I need in pure abundance

Fire; The Queen Of Wands; Nurturing our Passions & Spiritual Growth

This is the Queen of purpose, confidence, and leadership.  She steps into her own unique power and leads by example, inspiring and motivating whoever she touches.  When we are in our Queen Of Wands energy we can move mountains, run marathons and start a business from a penny and a dream.  Once we step into her power, we are a true force to be reckoned with.

Here are some affirmations that may help you step into your Queen of Wands energy;

  • I will listen to the burning voice inside me to start something amazing
  • I will honour myself by showing up daily to help steer my life in the direction that makes me feel most fulfilled, happy and abundant
  • I am worthy
  • I am enough
  • I am unique
  • I am my own best friend
  • I deserve to be happy

 Water; The Queen Of Cups; Nurturing self-love and love for all others

This is the Queen of love, fulfilment and selflessness.  She is Queen of family, friends, house, home, beauty and inner sparkle.  When we are in this Queens energy we give service to those that need us, providing charity unconditionally as this makes us feel incredibly fulfilled but at the same time remembering that we cannot pour from an empty cup.  This Queen loves herself purely and will make sure all her needs are met so she can be the light that someone else may need in their time of darkness.

Here are some affirmations that may help you step into your Queen of Cups energy;

  • I give myself permission to love myself without conditions
  • I love myself unconditionally
  • I will not place judgements on myself or others
  • I honour my empathetic side, the side that allows me to show my emotions and communicate how I feel
  • It is ok to cry
  • It is ok to heal
  • It is ok to feel happy
  • I deserve happiness
  • Nothing is going to go wrong

By embracing each Queen at different points of your life (and even different points of your day!) will help you live in the moment, connect back to your authentic self and feel more at ease with your state of mind.

Until next time,


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The Feeling Of Creation

Sometimes, the most intriguing place is being in-between two worlds, this one and the one that one day we will all go to once we leave this physical reality.

I don’t always get the chance to go there, but when I do, it is normally between being asleep and awake, during a lucid dream or when having a Reiki treatment/in meditation.

I get the most insight just before I fall asleep.  It’s like a new energy slips in and the feeling of knowing that I am being shown something is as real to me as being alive.  This happened just last week.  As I lay, drifting off into a comfortable slumber, I could see through the gap of dimensions and was shown the beauty of the other side.  I get the most profound feelings when I look at views on that side.  It is different to being here, when I’m here the feelings are dampened down, they only scratch the surface of what can truly be felt once we leave Earth. 

When we are here and we look out over a beautiful landscape, or the view of the ocean on a breezy spring day, it often makes us feel calm and at peace.  The same thing happens on the other side but it is ramped up to not only a feeling but a “knowing”.  We don’t just see the ocean and attach a feeling to it, we ARE the ocean and can tap into many more layers of existence then the 3D effect we have here.

So, when I had a little glimpse the other night, it gave me the chance to see what creation means on the other side.  I know it was my guide answering an earlier question (in waking time) when I was staring out of the window, wondering what life is like once you are “physically” dead (standard afternoon daydream!).

He was able to show me during my vision.  I’ve always understood that creation is pretty much the point of everything.  As humans in a physical existence where survival is the most pressing issue, we have no choice but to create to not only stay alive, but for enjoyment purposes too.  Every single thing in our physical reality has been created by either the source or by us, and as we are part of the source, everything we can see and touch has come from a single point of creation.

When my guide showed me the other side, I was able to “feel’ what creation is.  At this point, I wish I had a brain big enough to put it into words, but as with all things on the other side, articulating via a human language can be a challenge.  I shall try below;

The feeling when we are there is as if we are plugged into one gigantic energy source, like a giant spark plug.  There is a buzz that runs through our energetic body and we are able to acutely feel all these ideas, concepts and philosophies within a very comfortable state of “knowing”.  The possibilities are endless because our energy is now infinite so it can keep moving and shaping as much as it (or you) want it too. 

There are no human worries to pull you down, no fretting about money or food or heavy human problems that we must deal with.  There is just light, and opportunity and the ability to feed your soul with whatever you want to do.  The peace that it brings is indescribable. 

I felt so comforted after my vision, as it is another indication that life on the other side is awesome!  I am sure that there is still much growth to do, but we have space and more time than we could ever imagine putting that growth into practice, starting with creation.

Until next time,


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