It only occurred to me recently how anxiety issues and trust are so intrinsically linked. If you have issues with trust, then it may manifest into worrying and catastrophising about the future.
I was told by a therapist that trust issues stem from childhood, for example, if your survival felt threatened, if parenting was inconsistent (especially when it comes to emotions) or you learnt that adults around you do not trust others, then you are more likely to have issues with this as an adult. On some level, there is healing that needs to happen from your inner child to really conquer the lack of trust.
The problem with trust issues is that it blocks you from having any faith in yourself or those around you. Fundamentally, you need to have faith in yourself, your identity and your decision making ability before you can ever really trust anyone.
Anxiety is like a doubting disease of the mind; it continually creeps in to try and sabotage any form of potential happiness that has come your way.
As someone who suffers with anxiety, I wanted to share with you how I deal with managing it and mostly, trusting in myself that I can continue to manage it, for my life’s journey.
Quiet The Voice
Taking just ten minutes a day to sit in quiet contemplation or to listen to music, focussing on your breathing, is by far one of the best ways to calm a racing mind. You must believe in the process with this one, because the more you do it, the more you begin to feel better. The feeling is a subtle one, but it is there, gradually the fog will begin to lift.
By just sitting and being present in this moment, you are not racing ahead into thoughts of unknown outcomes. You are doing the best you can to cope and survive amid your struggles, and that is all you can ask yourself for.
Trust The Universe
This one is a biggie! To not trust an outcome of a situation, or the intentions of a person, or even the intentions of yourself, what can really help you with that feeling is to know that the Universe has your back. I feel this so deeply, simply because the Universe has never let me down. When I talk of the Universe, I am talking about my spirit guide/my higher self, as I believe they are all one of the same. But one thing is for certain, I have always received help when I have asked and I have never doubted that I am supported by an invisible force, as are you.
Take Yourself Away
Sometimes it might be impossible to remove the stress that is triggering your anxiety entirely, however what you can do is take yourself away to a place that helps you to be in the moment. This may be with friends who lift you up and make you laugh, or out in the countryside on a walk so you can connect back to nature. I have found that keeping myself busy in a creative way is an excellent way to reduce my anxiety. A mind that is distracted with other (positive) things, will reduce the airtime you will give to that little imp on your shoulder.
Talking therapy really does help to manage anxiety. Once you understand from a professional therapist how anxiety manifests, you can begin to see patterns that have formed in your own way of thinking. Thoughts can be obsessive, and these obsessions can be played out as compulsions in many ways to try to constantly seek reassurance. Talking therapy and practices like CBT allow you to have the self-awareness that you are being triggered and to stop yourself from seeking the reassurance. You then begin to understand how anxiety will try to move into different areas of your life, for example, health, relationships, chronic negativity……once you understand how it tries to take control of you, you can manage it in such a way that you can pull yourself back from being sucked in again.
There is one thing I am certain of, that is that those who battle mental health issues every day are the unsung heroes who keep pushing through, showing up and walking through their struggles. If you are one of these people, I want you to know you are not alone and that the work you are doing will pay off, for tomorrow is a new day.
Until next time,
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