Some of us live our lives from fear based decisions. Or decisions that never allow us to reach out of the comfort zone and to develop into our true potential.
Have a think about these:
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Have you stayed in the same job, or same position for the last ten to twenty to thirty years?
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Has your financial position ever got better or just stayed the same, or even got worse?
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Do you still watch the same TV shows you watched when you were a teenager? In fact, do you watch more TV then go out and have experiences?
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Has your circle of friends stayed exactly the same, grown, changed or gone completely?
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Do you feel like you have changed much since you were 21?
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Are things getting better and better as you age? Is it something to look forward too or dread?
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What new skill have your learnt over the past few years?
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Do you stop others living their dreams or do you pee on their parade because of your own self limitations?
I haven’t listed the above to make someone feel crap about their lives if they fit into quite a few of those categories, in terms of “staying where they are”. But sometimes I feel we have to get honest with ourselves. What stops us from getting off our backsides and making positives changes in our lives? If you are happy in your comfort zone, then I guess most of this doesn’t apply to you. But if you know deep down that something maybe lacking, perhaps it actually does.
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Learnt behaviour: fear. Being conditioned by our parents from a very young age to be scared of the world and everything in it. Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of fear is sensible, it could save your life, but some poor people have to spend years undoing thought patterns and behaviours that have been planted there by innocent parents that thought they were doing the right thing (and some guilty Narcissistic parents too)
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Lacking in motivation and will-power. Maybe this is chemical in the brain, I have no idea, I’m not a clinical psychologist so perhaps there is something that gives one person more drive than the other.
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Lacking in confidence: Newsflash = confidence happens when you are living and growing, the majority of us are not born with it. But if you don’t challenge yourself and try new things you might as well leave it right there at the door!
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Worry what others think. How many of us do this, even subconsciously? Why the hell are we worried about the opinions of others? Who the hell are they to put that on us anyway? Here’s a thought, someone that truly loves you never judges you and actually thinks your awesome for your quirky little ways and the ones that don’t have got some real insecurity crap going on right there.
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I can’t afford / don’t have the money / time / resources to live my dreams: why are you limiting yourself? If you seek from the heart with passion, drive and motivation you can have any life you wish. Every time you say that last sentence is not true you just burst your own dream.
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Negativity breeds negativity: like attracts like and what we feel now shapes our future tomorrow. This is so true. If you live your life in a cycle of negative thoughts and actions you will only attract the same things again and again. I can’t change my job because……I can’t afford to do that because………..I don’t like doing that because…….I’ve never been any good at that because…………what the hell are you here for anyway??
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I don’t deserve it: You deserve the world. Everyone got born here for a reason and yes there are a lot of us but you are special and unique, there is only one of you after all. Start by loving the person you are.