How do you pull yourself back to being grounded, grateful and with a feeling of inner peace when all your mind wants to do is self-destruct and rip apart every layer of you?
Even the most “together” of people may shock you with the fact they are dealing with many internal conflicts, anxieties, and jumbles of feeling that they are not sure where to place.
Sometimes I feel the whole point of being a human being is to be programmed so that we are starkly aware of the negative side of “life” to give us the nudge to find the joy in as much as we can.
One thing is for sure. It is not easy being human.
Sometimes I must remind myself to get back to “me” by doing certain things that I know will help. I often find that I am looking for something that I know is missing but I have no idea what that thing is. Does that sound familiar to you?
The more I read tarot for people the more I understand that we are all looking for this thing. But how do we settle ourselves back to “us” when we are not even sure what we are looking for?
I know what works for me.
I must busy myself in a way that is not stressed or rushed, but productive and resourceful. To set goals, to stick to a plan, to focus.
It’s to smile and connect with people whenever I can, even when I do not feel like it. To remember that it is ok to say no.
I once read a book about a woman who pulled herself out of a cycle of poverty, disillusionment, and extreme toxic behaviour.
She got up every day with a plan. With a focus, a routine. She made herself busy, so that she made “energy” with the things and intentions that she focused on.
She spoke to literally everyone she met. The postman, the bank cashier, the teacher, the stranger in the street. She connected her energy with every human being that encountered her that day, even though she didn’t want to, she did. She was alone inside, so she made it a point to make these connections.
She did this every day and not only that, but she also wrote about her day. She journaled everything. Her thoughts and feelings, the why’s, why nots, questions, triggering thoughts and complex feelings. It all went down on paper before she fell asleep.
She soon found that by showing up to “do things”, to “connect” to “feel, express and create” shifted her energy in a way that almost moved the walls of her life around her to open out onto a vast landscape of new possibility.
By all these connections, by having a plan, by putting words on paper, she was manifesting, and her energy was changing.
She blogged about her life, her problems, her feelings. Someone of importance read her blogs and then they turned them into a story of her journey. She has sold millions of books….it changed her life overnight. But the work was done months and months leading up to the very moment that she sold her first book.
Instead of being in the mercy of her “life”, she decided to show up to it and move from passenger to driver. She used the energy around her to either wallow in self-pity or to dig deeper than she had ever gone before and start making small changes that eventually pulled her in a completely different direction.
So, when you feel like your life is pulling you in which way what, like you have no anchor and stability even though on paper, your life doesn’t appear to be wobbly, you must try to navigate your emotions as much as possible. Give yourself a helping hand by focussing, planning, connecting, building, creating, smiling, singing, appreciating, letting go, giving up, sticking too, accepting, refusing, inviting and being.
I follow a lady called Alana Fairchild and she puts it so well here;
“If you want a life of passionate purpose, start with knowing, accepting and loving who you are as a person. As you love, respect and nurture your authentic self, it will help you to understand what is best to cast aside.
You have the power to choose how you want to feel and what you want to express in each moment, no matter what is going on around you”.
Until next time,