Your Health Is Your Wealth

I read that sentence recently and it resonated with me at this time in my life “Health is Wealth”.  I’m practically at the front porch of knocking on forty’s door and this year, this last year of my thirties, I’ve had more chronic health conditions than I think I ever have.   It’s literally been one thing after the other.  I can happily say that I’ve managed to get rid of most of them due to lifestyle change.

I should also note that I have a chronic autoimmune disease, endometriosis, which, even after an operation in 2019 to try and remove it all, has started to creep right back in with a host of symptoms that change from month to month.

So, to cut a long story short, I have realized one very simple thing during the whole lockdown experience of 2020, that if I don’t get my act together now, I am going to spend my next forty years with chronic pain.  Don’t get me wrong, I am a healthy woman in general, however, I can hand on heart say that I learnt consistency this summer.  Gone are the days where I could be really health conscious Monday to Thursday and then just let loose at the weekend, the consistency has to be an everyday thing.

So, as I had a huge amount of time of my hands during lockdown (my therapy practice was closed), I decided to go back to running, every other day.  I also combined this with yoga sessions and the odd online HIIT class.  I up’ed my game with water, like seriously.  Two litres of water (measured out with my special bottle that keeps track) and herbal teas on top of that (I haven’t given up coffee, but I have just one cup a day now).  I’m working on cutting out chocolate and crisps entirely and basically, everything that enters my mouth now is from a fruit, vegetable, pulse or lean meat (I have seven to ten portions a day of veg & fruit now), 98% of every meal I eat is home cooked, with fresh ingredients.  Takeaways are now a thing of the past, or a two-monthly treat, as opposed to twice a week.  Everything is in moderation now, so alcohol is well under the 14 units per week and only on Friday’s and Saturdays.  Even desserts like ice cream I’m saving as a Sunday treat.  Is this too regimented?  I don’t think it is, I don’t feel like I have much of a choice now because as soon as I overindulge in something like white bread or pizza, I feel awful the next day.  I could write a whole blog on exactly what I have been eating, but I will save that for a later post.

With the running and exercise, I make hay while the sun shines.  What does this mean exactly?  My chronic illness means that for one week of the month, I am poorly.  I have what can only be described as a split physical body disorder!  Obviously, I have made that up, but honestly the difference between my heathy days as opposed to my unwell days is startling.  During my good days, I can get up at 7am without so much as a yawn, do housework, do this task, that task, play with my daughter, go for a 4 mile run, come home, prepare a dinner from scratch, do a hobby or something in the evening….with the same amount of energy I started with in the morning.  Then, at around day 19 of my cycle, symptoms begin to creep in.  It starts with nausea after every meal, especially dinner time, it doesn’t matter how slow I eat, I want to vomit for 30 minutes after eating.  Sharp pains intensify, sometimes in my back, mostly on the left side (where my surgeon had to move my ovary that was stuck to my pelvic wall last year), this pain shoots down my leg or constantly grinds in my back.  When my period is due, I have the most intense exhaustion, to the point where sometimes I don’t get dressed.  I can sleep for 12 hours straight but still wake up with the worst brain fog, I forget words, or cannot concentrate, I drop things constantly, I walk into things.  It can be hard for me to hold a conversation….I don’t want to talk to anyone.  I am a complete shadow of the woman that was pacing along the streets with her ear pods in a week earlier!  Sorry for TMI but I have very heavy bleeding that intensifies the pain and lowers my iron levels, meaning I have to up my supplements (and not give up meat, something I have chosen not to do yet until I get my endo under control).  I haven’t got it under control yet, because nothing works for me (from a medical point of view), so I am trying every avenue at the moment, as that one week that it takes from me add’s up to a lot of time in the bigger picture.

As much as I hate this illness, I understand that endo is not the worst illness to have and in comparison, to others, I am very lucky, someone with a life threatening illness would take it any day of the week compared to what they are going through.

So why am I telling you all this?  Is it to gloat about how I’ve managed to stick to a healthy practice routine or that I’ve lost over half a stone by doing this?  No, it isn’t .  Because it has taken me half of my life to understand the importance of good nutrition and proper care for my mental, emotional, physical and spiritual needs and this year, during one of the worst times in our recent modern history, I cracked it.  I tell you this because if you, like me, are approaching the mid-life years, or are well into the your winter years, if you are not educating yourself about your health and trying to do better, then you need to bear the consequences of what that means to you.  I understand that some conditions are not our fault (as you have read, I have one of those) but, we are all responsible to make healthy choices to ease what we have been dealt with and to prevent other things from starting, because believe me, if you neglect your body now, they will come.

So, today is the youngest you will EVER be.  Why not make hay whilst the sun shines and start implementing some better choices, practices and plan how you want your future to look?  I personally want to retain the feeling I have, on my well days, for as long as possible, well into my golden years!  It is a fact that we are all living longer now.  It is so easy, when you are in your twenties and thirties to think you have all this time and that cause and effect doesn’t really apply when you are young…..well actually, you are wrong.  I think for a the lucky very few, they can get away with drinking, smoking, eating crap all their life, but let’s face it, we are not all Keith Richards are we?  So I say, do it like the French do, everything you love in moderation, find the balance, know what foods your body wants and needs, avoid those that make you feel awful and move your body (if you don’t use it……you lose it).

Until next time,

Tanya

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The Power Of Therapists

No matter what their specialty is, whether they are healers, massage therapists, psychics or aromatherapists, acupuncturists, the list goes on, I am always so amazed and inspired by the natural healing abilities all of these different modalities.

Last Friday I had a treat day, I had three self-care type experiences booked in for myself, my regular facial, reiki treatment and reading with a psychic.  What I found was on that day, not only did I feel fantastic at the end of it, but I got something from each and every one of those therapists.

For example, during my facial with my lovely therapist, she did a beautiful neck and shoulder massage.  Her hands are particularly hot, there are no surprises that she is a Reiki practitioner also.  After she spent quite a bit of time massaging between my shoulder blades, she asked me if I have pain between my shoulders, on one particular side, as she could feel a heat spot there.  Sure enough, I have a weak area on that very spot that can cause me immense pain if it gets triggered.  My therapist’s healing hands are able to detect heat spots on the client’s bodies, she has done this with others, she can feel the exact area that needs healing.

After this appointment I then went to see a lovely friend and neighbour who I do regular therapy swaps with, it was my turn and I had chosen Reiki.  During the amazing session, at the very end, after feeling deeply relaxed I started to see a vision.  A vision is something that is played out in your mind however, it’s not coming from you.  As I looked into the darkness of my own eyes, suddenly it became sepia and I started to watch what can only be described as a movie scene.  First of all, I saw two Chinese people with masks on which made me think of the Coronavirus outbreak.  Then I was shown different hands, lots and lots and lots of different pairs of hands, all healing, all helping the world to heal.  It is like I was being given a message about how profound and very important healing is, on a natural level as well as a medicinal one.  To back this up, my lovely therapist told me that she saw, in her mind’s eye, a vision of lots of people joined together by their hands….healing.  We were certainly both being shown a message here.

Then, in the evening, I had a psychic reading with a lovely lady I had never met before.  After an incredible 40 minutes or so, where she practically told me everything that I have been thinking, feeling and planning with my business, the most profound bit came.

In January I had a vivid dream that I was sitting in a circle of people, and one person, a young black man, really stood out.  He was wearing old type robes and looking right at me, repeating the word: “Malachi…….Malachi……..Malachi”, I even woke up saying the word.  So, I instantly googled it and Malachi is from Biblical times, translating into “Spirit Messenger”.  I took this as a nice sign that I am on the right path, particularly with my mediumship.

However, fast forward to my reading with the lovely psychic, at the end of the reedling I could see her struggling with a word and then it flew out of her mouth “They are saying, Malachi.  Mean anything to you?”.  The hairs on the back of my arms went up.  I told her about my dream.  The psychic said that not only does she feel that the young black chap was actually a new guide (I had a feeling of this too recently), but this word has something to do also with Reiki.  She told me about a Reiki course, which sounds very much like Malachi and they want me to go on it, she even recommended a Reiki Master for me, which turns out, is my Reiki master!  So, after our session, I contacted my Reiki Master and she told me the course is called “Muny Ki” and is a 3-day course which allows you to receive sacred rites, bringing in much positive change, healing, and transformation, that you can also pass on to others.

So, there you go, three different therapists, three different modalities, and amazing experiences with each.

Your spiritual and emotional wellbeing is so important, never overlook an alternative healer or someone that works with the energies, as this can be powerful stuff, powerful stuff indeed!

Until next time,

Tanya

So I Just Went For It

Recently I met a lovely new client who said something to me which rang a little bell in my heart.  She told me that sometimes, she has this inner feeling of knowing, like an energetic feeling, that something big is coming her way, like something good, derived from happiness, like, her purpose.  I understood exactly what she meant; this is the first time I’ve heard someone else say out loud what I often feel myself.

However, it’s been hard to hear it lately, as sometimes, like everyone else, I can have days when I feel low and not really sure why.  I don’t think this weather is helping (that makes me sound like my nan) but seriously, it’s been overcast since about November, hasn’t it?  Anyway, I’ve had to dig deep for the motivation that normally just spills out of me with ease, I’ve had a real brain fog lately, sometimes even worrying that the best of my ambition has gone like my 30s are about to go behind me………can you believe that negativity?  That is not my normal vibe.  I want to stress that as soon as that creeps in, I deal with it, like, I’m not having that, at all.

So, when this happens, I go back to basics with my mental health, everything I teach my students on my Law Of Attraction Course: Routine, Self-Care, De-Stress, Back To Nature.  Go walking (I notice a direct link to my mental health and how often I get out walking with my dog Seb), meditation (I fell asleep to the Shipping Forecast the other night, it was lush!), exercise, good diet, loads of water, going within myself to find inner peace, less worry and more “home” time.  What do I mean by home time?  Home is the place inside you that is safe, yours and is where you are connected to the source of all that is, it’s your energetic life force that tells you that you have absolutely nothing at all to fear.  Have you found yours yet?

After months of preparing to launch my Law Of Attraction Course online, it was ready to launch today (Monday 24th Feb).  I think this has contributed to my feeling of unease.  I’m about to embark on something that I’ve been working toward and thinking about for ages.  Last year I imagined what it would be like to launch my LOA course, online, to a wider audience.  I had no idea how to even start, but using the power of manifestation, I managed to get all the knowledge, resources and contacts I needed, and low and behold, I manifested it.  Now comes the fear bit, the bit where I wonder if it will do well.  I always say this, it’s not about the money for me, it’s about the impact and the connection to fellow humans, that’s what I get excited about, but then I am fearful if it won’t be received with love, I had a few hurtful comments when I initially sent an advert out (not from my page likers or local community should I add), this did scare me a bit, but then I must remember that being scared is a block to reaching out for your dreams, fear must be overcome and moved to the side.

What am I trying to say with this week’s post?  I guess it is, going back to that feeling in the first paragraph.  Once we have found our life’s purpose, it puts us in a flow of energy and gives us a feeling unlike any other we have ever experienced.  It’s personal, it’s not about anyone else.  It’s like we are fulfilling a subconscious dream that we came here to do, we recognize it like an old friend, and hand in hand we navigate a path together, meeting new people along the way, having incredible experiences at each crossroads, letting our gut take us there and nodding in agreement because we know it’s the right way, the right direction.

People always say to me that they don’t know what their purpose is.  I can’t answer that for people, it’s something you must find within yourself.  My purpose is connecting to the spirit world, proving life after death exists and most of all, helping others of this life journey with grief, worry, and pain.  I know I am lucky that I found my purpose, but all I did was listen to my inner voice.  What is yours telling you?

Once you find it, listen, understand it and let it guide you.  Then, just go for it, please just go for it!

Until next time

Tanya

 

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Strength

Last week I wrote about my current health issue and how worried I was (initially) that I had a far more serious condition.  The consultant really did put my mind at ease.  She told me all about my issue and talked about my forthcoming operation, but she certainly did not indicate that I have anything to worry about.

During my “worry period” between the scan and the consultant appointment, I asked my nan and grandad for a sign that everything would be ok.  For those of you that follow my regular weekly blog posts, you will already know that my nan (especially) is pretty good at giving me a sign from spirit, no kidding, the lady has it licked, she gives signs like a boss, she makes it effortless!

On the very morning of the day I asked for a sign from her, I got one.  It was Sunday and I was doing my normal weekly chore, unloading my Sainsburys food shop.  I always opt for home delivery because it saves me time and I do love the banter with my local driver!

As I did this normal routine, my heart was heavy.  I was still really worried about my health and I had been crying a lot the night before.  As I opened the very last bag, my heart skipped a beat.  There was a big bunch of Spring daffodils inside.  I hadn’t ordered these during my online shop.   I have never ordered flowers in a food shop. I checked the receipt, they were on there, they cost £1 a bunch.  I looked at the bottom of the receipt and remembered that I had a voucher, £1 off my shopping for that week, which I had applied at the checkout point.  That voucher covered the cost of the flowers…..the flowers from nan, telling me that she is thinking of me.

However, a couple of weeks later, I was reading my friends latest blog post, who said she was really chuffed to find that Sainsbury’s had sent her a free bunch of spring daffodils in her home shop delivery that week.  Damn it!  Everyone got the flowers….it wasn’t a sign, well, so I thought!  About 3 days after my friend said about her flowers, I had had a tarot reading with my friend and fellow professional reader, Gaynor.  She gave me the most amazing reading and not only that, she linked up to my nan for me.  At the end of the reading, she said that nan wanted to let me know that she is there and that I must trust in her, especially when it comes to my spiritual work.  She said she is passing me a bunch of yellow flowers.  I couldn’t hide the smile from my face!

Now we can’t forget grandad in this.  On the Thursday evening of the same week, it was time for my circle development class at the Arthur Findlay college.  I am still at that new stage there, where everyone is total strangers, which is brilliant, especially when I get a reading.

A lady called Marie sat in front of me and connected to a male in spirit. She described him to me and I knew she had my grandad.  In her hand she had an oracle card, one that she had been given by the tutor, to help link the spirit to me.  The card said, “Trust in the Unknown”.

“He is telling you to do that. Don’t worry about the unknown, TRUST in the unknown.  He is giving me the name David(his son) and talking about him cutting bread(he had a very unique way of cutting a fresh new loaf, which makes me smile whenever I think about it), he also says you have radiant blue energy all around you(my guide is called Blue) and he is talking about you when you go to bed.  You lift off the two pillows on top of your bed and you have two special pillows you use(this is my exact routine every night –  my special pillows because I get reflux!).  He said he wants to be with you, especially in the work you do, he said he will be around you”. 

 

As you can imagine, I was thrilled with that reading.  But here is the part that makes me smile.  When I used to rent a treatment room that was connected to a hairdressing salon, I used to have a very whispy spider who sat in the corner of the room.  He was there for about 9 months!  (I thought spiders are supposed to have a ten-day lifespan?).   Everyone who knows me knows that I have a very bad fear of spiders. But I used to let this spider stay. I let him stay because I felt he was my granddads spirit (my grandad has given me a spider surprise on almost every special occasion since he died).  So when I left that room for good, I actually said farewell to my little friend, Mr spider aka grandad Frank.

After the reading with Marie, on the Saturday, I had a client in my treatment room (which is now at home) and as I placed my hands over her eyes, I was drawn to look in the corner of my room.  There was my whispy little friend, the same type of spider (which I haven’t seen since I was in my old treatment room 18 months ago).  I knew instantly it was grandad, just as Marie had said, being with me during my work.  I smiled at him and said he could stay, as long as he doesn’t come near my treatment couch.

I also got another strong sign from spirit that week, this time it was from Blue.

It was during that same night that I had my reading with Marie.

Some of us were chosen to stand up (in front of twenty others!) and do some inspirational speaking.  Each person had to get up and choose a stone from a small basket which had a word on it and then talk about what that word meant to them, words like gratitude or love.

When it was my turn, I picked up my stone with sweaty hands (I was so nervous!). I turned over the stone to see what my word was:

“Strength”………………..

What was I going to say?  What does strength mean to me, mean to anyone?  Then I remembered the card that Marie had for me “Trust in the Unknown”. So this is what I started with, I can’t remember exactly what I said to everyone, I believe it went a little like this:

“What is strength?  Strength is trust, its trust in the unknown.  We all need our own inner strength, to know we can depend on us, above all else, during our life’s journey. From the day we are born to the day we die, we will have our ups and downs, our hard days and our good days and the days in between, we will need inner strength to get us through….but we must know that we are supported, that someone or something has our back…ALWAYS, we are supported in this life by an unseen force, we must Trust In The Unknown”.

Until next time,

Tanya